Yes, yes & yes.
The accessory socket is only on when the ignition is live, which is good. It does mean if you stop to fiddle with the satnav you have to keep the power on or rely on the internal battery power.
I used an Optimate 4 on my XR. It is the canbus version but I never bothered using the socket. The battery is under the seat so very accessible and I used the croc clips.